Out of the Box Practice - An Interview with Rachel of Sage Parenting

Out of the Box Practice - An Interview with Rachel of Sage Parenting

When I met Rachel and heard her story, I just had to share it with you. Here is a person who has created a life and business that fits for her While her path has been one that is not traditional, I love how she talks about how it has actually opened up more opportunity and expanded her work. 

So if you are wanting to learn from someone who is building a practice that is doesn't fit the mold of brick and mortar, butt in chair, this is a must listen! 

Check out Rachel at Sage Parenting.

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Entrepreneurship and Relationships - How to Stay Connected While Building a Private Practice

I reached out to Jenev because I was desperate to have you hear her message. More often than not, while we love building our practices, it can deter from our relationships and if we aren't fostering intimacy and connection, our relationship can take a back seat. I have seen it too often with therapists. We are not immune.

You can find out more about Dr. Jenev at www.mybestrelationship.com

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1 Lesson From The ER

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Warning: Don’t read if you want to believe that we are perfect. I am about to fall of the pedestal and don’t want to ruin your day. But at the end - there is something special just for you!

I was sitting in the ER a month ago. A stomach virus thought to be appendicitis had me reeling in pain, waiting for a CT scan. I have been having medical stuff going on for months now. And you know what? This was not the best time for this to be happening. I had clients to see and a big conference to attend.

Dear Universe - I don’t have time for this.

That was my mantra. Ok, not the best mantra for a person that believes in affirmation and being present. But I am human and it is what it is. In the ER my phone was dead and I had nothing to do but sit there and wait and rest and think. I realized, my body was saying to stop. Stop working, stop worrying, stop all of it. I admit I hadn’t been listening to myself lately and thus got a nice reminder to pay attention.

Dear Universe - I am listening.

Clearly, if I am freaking out about work because I am sick - there is an issue. We all should be able to get sick or go on vacation without fear. But even I get caught up in the doing from time to time. This is what happens to a lot of people I speak with. They spin their wheels doing stuff and never knowing what works or what doesn’t because they are freaked out. I spoke with my friend yesterday who had been panicked about her billing only to realize she had already done it. We had a good laugh about it. Maybe you can relate though.

Dear Universe - Thank you.

I learned about what I needed and what my business needed. I needed peace. I needed some time for rest. I needed to get back to doing what I love and remembering why I do it. My business needed me to be more focused and organized. I learned to let go of some of the stuff that wasn’t important. I also learned a new mantra - I have time for me, my family and my work. So I have been changing up my schedule a bit. Miranda and I are dividing tasks a little differently. My sleep habits are better, my work habits are more focused and I have more time for me. Who knew a virus could be a blessing?!

What will it take for you? I am giving you a chance to take a moment and just look at your business, your relationships - whatever you got going on in your life. Be honest with yourself. Do you like what you see? From your mindset to your work habits to your business process - it all matters and it all impacts the other.

The 3 Bosses

Part of why I went into business for myself is because I could be my own boss. I get to determine the boundaries and the direction of my business. I set my hours, plan my projects... How awesome is that?! Yet, I don't always rule the roost so to speak. In fact, most business owners I speak with struggle with the very same thing. So let's talk about who is really the boss of your business. Here are the 3 most common bosses that entrepreneurs struggle with:

  • Negative self talk - I like to call it "the committee" and those on the committee are usually the people that never believed in you, tell you that you are worthless, or just tell you "you can't do that!" The committee is the insecurities from the past and current situations. Private practice owners that heed to the committee will find themselves stuck in fear and a place of unworthiness. How do you break through that? I encourage people to start putting people on the committee that do believe in them. Basically, overrule the committee. Tell it off :) and tell it - "YOU ARE WRONG!" Changing your thinking from fear to self-worth will open your mind up to possibilities and enable you to take the risks necessary to grow your business.

  • The economy/government - "The system" is the big fear mongering evil that some business owners hold onto as a reason that their business can't grow. While the economy does have an impact on business, how do you explain that there is still diversity amongst businesses - some have survived or thrived and others have shut down. Obamacare is currently one of the biggest scares for people in the health industry. I hear of panic and desperation to get on insurance panels or contract with the government plans. Business owners that are successful, feel the fear and go forward anyway. They plan to reach the people that aren't impacted by the economy or they provide solutions that are more valuable than what people can get from the government. You have to rise above the economy and keep pursuing other options until you find what works. It takes tenacity and creativity - foundations for running your own business.

  • Peers - You look around, have a coffee with your office mate, go to a networking meeting and what do you hear? People saying you can't charge this or that, or market this or that way in "our field." Really? How do they know? Have they ever tried? Have they ever contracted out employees, created programs or products or started marketing online in a clear focused way? But yet, we allow our peers to influence us and believe the cannots. One of the keys to success is surrounding yourself with successful people - and not necessarily the people in your field. I have learned from marketing gurus and have my own sales coach who isn't anywhere near being in the mental health field, but I have learned more than ever before and am able to translate that into what I do. Challenge yourself to see other options. Don't get stuck with the nay sayers.

Anytime one of these bosses creeps up, I call my coach. (Yes, coaches have coaches!) I spend time checking my thoughts and fears and while I may feel the fear, I trust myself more than ever before. Fears do not dictate my business decisions, I do. So before you look to your peers, the government or just start buying into your negative self worth - take a moment and remember how you got here in the first place. Look at your strengths, value your goals and get the help you need to move your business forward.

An Amazing Therapist

I am honored to know Keri Nola. She is a gal that I met in BSchool who I hit it off with, right away. I simply love her. I haven't coached her. I don't get paid by her. So why interview her for you guys? Inspiration. Plain and simple. She is an example of a thriving therapist and entrepreneur. And as we say, if you want to be great, surround yourself with greatness. We had fun talking about the journey into private practice, ways to connect with clients, fears and getting creative with building a business. Keri has a private practice and an awesome new way of helping people in her

Go Deeper Get Lighter

program. Feel free to check it out or email her directly at info@godeepergetlighter.com . PS. I have to ask...did you like having a video? Do you want more of these? Send me an email and let me know what you would like to see in our blogs. kelly@zynnyme.com

JUMP!!

I remember the feeling, "How am I going to do this?" Fears bubbling up - fears about bills, money, time, relationships - all because I wanted desperately needed a change in my life. I wanted to do something different. I didn't want to work for the man the woman for anyone, anymore. But how do you go from a cushy salary to working for yourself? Well...here is what I have learned still experience in my life.

 

  • You need support - If you have friends or family cheering you on, the road to independence is a lot easier. Especially if you have a life partner - if they don't support you, it will be difficult. I am fortunate. My husband has often believed in me more than I have believed in myself. So, the days I came home, tired and freaking out, he would remind me of what I was doing and why I was doing it. You need someone to talk you off the ledge and light a fire under you to get you going. For me, I also got a coach...who walked along side me and held me accountable.

  • You need a vision - Vision is grounding. It brings us back to our purpose and drive. Imagine the life you are wanting to create. Are you working 80 hours a week? Are you taking 3 months off in the summer to travel? Are you working from home? Having a sense of what you want will help you plan a business that works FOR YOU. (By the way, we all want different things. Don't compare. This is a journey of self discovery and what you want will change over time. Don't worry, so will your business.)

  • You need to know your value - What are you offering to the world? What makes you unique? This is what determines your business plan. You might know how to get a couple to communicate and have fun in the process. You might really be able to help trans gendered youth find their voice and feel comfortable in the world. You also might love teaching women how to take back their confidence and shine in any relationship. You don't "Just" do counseling. Anytime I hear "just" I hear devaluing. You are so much more than that.

  • You need a plan - A plan that includes a budget :) because investing in your business is key. It is true! When you invest iny our business you are going to see a greater return on your investment then if you sit in isolation trying to keep your head above water. You want a plan that has a targeted audience for your business, marketing strategies - both online and offline, and you need a schedule of implementation for you plan.

 

4 simple things to transition from the shackles of employment to self-employment. So easy right? No, it isn't. I am not going to say this has been easy. But it has been easier because of these things that I have done and learned over the years. People hear about our program - some are shocked, some think we are crazy and some are so thrilled they jump right in. We are part of their plan to getting to success. Gosh it feels good to keep people from repeating the same mistakes I made.

You are literally faced with a canyon that you can either jump or stay where you are. Where you are - well, you know this place. It is a road that is well worn and understood. What's on the other side of the canyon however - that is foreign territory. But there are some people over there. You can see them and each has their own unique place on the other side. Where you stand - it is crowded. Lot's of people are around you. How long do you want to hang out here, doing the same things with the same people? When are you going to be ready to make the jump?