Do you believe the lie of Psychotherapy?


The lie that tells you anyone can do this. The lie that tries to Convince you this is all an accident. The lie that tells you that you are one of a million other therapist bots?

It isn't true.

You look up to people like Irvin D. Yalom, John & Julie Gottman, Marsha Linehan, Bruce Perry, Sue Johnson- you see they are something special.

And guess what? So are you. You are here, now, doing this work for a unique purpose. Jane Tornatore shared her story of being inspired to become a therapist after the first five minutes of a therapy session.

I've asked hundreds of therapists why they decided to do this work. I've heard one beautiful story after another. Some that bring tears to my eyes and most that bring joy in my heart.

Each of these therapists is uniquely passionate and skilled. They walk along side unique people- with a deep knowledge that each of them has specific needs, wants and desires. We are taught throughout our professional development to be multiculturalist competent- to not make assumptions about what someone does or should believe. To not impose how someone should be. And yet, so many therapists are trying to live within this tiny little box.

Today I am pausing on a difficult hike. I'm looking down at a forest so dense- the trees literally blend into one another. And yet, beside me I see the individual growth of each and every tree.

As I struggle up this mountain- I see many rocks. There are many places I can pause and write this- and yet I'm looking for a particular place of respite. I need some sun. I need a rock that support me. I need a spot where I don't feel in the way.

That is what it feels like when you find a great therapist isn't it? Like you found a place you can land for a moment. Think about how you value your therapist- and try to imagine another person who could replicate exactly what they do. Even if you went to a therapist with the exact same training- you would have a completely different experience.

This is something that a lot of people don't like about therapy and counseling- this inability to accurately predict exactly what will happen- and yet this is why therapy can be so effective. You are trained to help people make change through this relationship-come what may.

Let people come up close to you. Let them see what you have to provide. That is what your website and marketing should be- a way for people to see if this is a place that is safe for them to stop, pause, and do the work.

Share below something that you are proud of in the work that you do. Stop hiding in the shadows of other great therapists or blending in with the forest around you. Be seen. It is the only way you will ever be able to truly transform this world.

Miranda Palmer

I have successfully built a cash pay psychotherapy practice from scratch on a shoestring budget. I have also failed a licensed exam by 1 point (only to have the licensing board send me a later months later saying I passed), started an online study group to ease my own isolation and have now reached thousands of therapists across the country, helped other therapists market their psychotherapy practices, and helped awesome business owners move from close to closing their doors, to being profitable in less than 6 weeks. I've failed at launching online programs. I've had wild success at launching online programs. I've made mistakes in private practice I've taught others how to avoid my mistakes. You can do this. You were called to this work. Now- go do it! Find some help or inspiration as you need it- but do the work!